@tewha@remus I should add that both male and female violence is decreasing significantly. While men are still victims more, the rate has been decreasing faster for them than women. http://bit.ly/1Mc6Lpq
@tewha@remus That is I think a case could easily be made that there’s a misperception of the relative rates of risk - primarily due to the way the media raises fears. That’s not to deny he validity of female fears. But men are assaulted a lot.
@tewha@remus So the common refrain was that women wish they could be like men and go out at night and not be afraid of being raped or assaulted. The actual statistics though suggest the rates by gender are much closer than most think.
@tewha@remus Last fall’s “not all men” countermovement. It was to communicate that most women never know when a man is going to be violent to them. So there’s an inherent fear of all men. It was big on Twitter.
@remus@tewha I thought about this last fall when there were efforts to raise awareness of the fears women have of men. Of course men are overwhelmingly the abusers. What’s forgotten is men are overwhelmingly the victims too.
@remus@tewha Yeah, I want to be careful because I don’t in the least want to say women’s experiences don’t matter. They do tremendously. Yet there’s a societal expectation that it’s normal for men and they should just take it.
@tewha@remus I know there are studies that around 40% of domestic violence victims are men. While some of the figures seem problematic, the usual figures are that 10% of men and 29% of women face rape or assault. http://bit.ly/1GoI0WW
@tewha@remus I don’t know. I bet most male kids just get into fights as kids. There’s a societal expectation - although that’s been rapidly changing with recognition of bullying. As adults? I don’t know. Be interesting to find out reliable figures.
@johngordon When I went to see if my MBP was under warranty I was shocked at how many people had installed this sort of malware. The “only install from app store button” probably is wise to leave as default.
@remus@tewha I’d just like it if we had programs that helped people who need it without necessarily tying it as much to gender. (I recognize there obviously are gender differences that have to be addressed within therapy)
@remus I just found @tewha comment as interesting since I bet the vast majority of men were beat up at least once in their lives. Violence undoubtedly has an effect that isn’t being analyzed in terms of mental health.